What’s in the Space Between You and The Device?
Hey, there.
Imagine pausing for a moment and asking yourself: What exists in the space between me and my device? It’s not a trick question. It’s the kind of inquiry that drives the work we do at my firm and fuels our podcast and newsletter, Cyberpsychology Unplugged.
If you haven’t guessed, we explore the intersection of cybersecurity and cyberpsychology, a unique space that’s less about firewalls and phishing attacks (though those matter!) and more about the human experience of technology. This isn’t just "tech talk"—it’s a conversation about how our relationships with devices shape us, our families, and the generations to come.
The Digital Tug-of-War
Here’s the truth: Technology is amazing, but it’s also designed to keep us hooked. From infinite scrolls to unread notifications, the digital world pulls at us constantly. For many, it triggers a "fight, flight, or freeze" response—not unlike real-world stressors. And it’s not just adults feeling this; kids as young as six are navigating this complex relationship with tech.
So we ask:
What’s happening in that pause before you pick up your phone?
How do you feel when you’re endlessly scrolling versus when you’re walking outside, immersed in nature?
These questions are powerful because they shine a light on what often goes unnoticed: the emotional and psychological toll of living online.
It’s Not About Shame or Fear
Let’s be clear—our work isn’t about demonizing technology. It’s about finding balance. We don’t focus on abstinence or guilt; instead, we encourage curiosity and co-creation. Technology can be a spice that enhances life, not the main course. It’s a tool, not a replacement for connection, creativity, or purpose.
When we talk to kids (and adults), we emphasize that tech isn’t inherently good or bad. It’s how we use it that matters. For kids, this means learning to question the apps and devices they interact with daily. For parents, it’s about recognizing that guilt over handing a child a tablet is common—but understanding and intentionality can make a difference.
The Next Generation of Tech Users
Why is this work so important? Because today’s six-to-ten-year-olds are tomorrow’s leaders, creators, and innovators. By teaching them to pause and reflect—on the "why" behind their screen time, on the design tricks apps use to keep them hooked, and on how tech aligns with their values—we’re equipping them with tools to thrive in a digital world.
This isn’t just about protecting them; it’s about empowering them to take control of their digital lives.
Join Us on the Journey
Cyberpsychology isn’t about perfection—it’s about progress. It’s about asking better questions, learning together, and embracing vulnerability. Whether you’re a parent, educator, or tech enthusiast, you’re part of this journey.
Through our podcast and newsletter, we aim to bring real-world stories, actionable insights, and the kind of content that helps us all navigate this complex relationship with technology. We’re here to learn, grow, and walk this road with you.
Let’s figure out the space between us and our devices—together.
Stay tuned for more insights and join the conversation. Together, we’re building a future where technology enhances humanity—not overwhelms it.
About the Author: Michael Davis is the current CEO and Founder of Merek Security Solutions (Merek.io), a data privacy and cybersecurity firm focused on cognitive behavior relative to mindfulness, self-awareness, and cyberpsychological research. A 22-year United States Navy veteran, Michael has worked in the Cybersecurity and Information Security field with IBM, Boeing, and the Los Alamos National Laboratory (LANL) before starting his technology and mindfulness company in Santa Fe, NM. His work has been featured in Forbes, Newsweek, and countless articles written about his research in technology, cybersecurity best practices, and cyberpsychology research and development. Michael is also the current Executive Director of Santa Fe, New Mexico’s Cybersecurity and Cyberpsychology Research Center (CCCR), a non-profit wing of his Merek Security Solutions firm, focusing entirely on cyber ethics and cyberpsychological research and development within the K-5 educational space.
